Life is messy. We are messy. I don't believe that anyone is perfect or lives a perfect life. There is only One who ever was and ever has, and His name is Jesus. I am so thankful that because He came and first loved us, we are able to know what LOVE really is & enter into relationship with Him and with others. But I think you just might agree that how we define "love" and the picture many of us have in our minds of what "real love" is, has been jaded by the culture we live in